Father’s Day is upon us again and I see yet another trend that is inadvertently taking away from our day. It’s risky to be a man and take a stand but I am putting this out there for you comments, criticism, and (hopefully) agreement.
Today is the one day that father’s can jointly celebrate our distinct role in our culture. But today as I scrolled through Facebook I found a number of people giving a shout out to single mothers who pull double duty and wishing them a Happy Father’s Day as well.
I’ve worked in social services in one manner or another for many years and I have seen the numbers of single moms and absent dads. I also see single dads and men who have stepped in when bio-dad stepped out. There’s plenty that can be said about the disappearing dad, but there’s a lot to be said about the dad who sticks around, or the dad who steps up.
Dad’s give a unique perspective on the world, different from moms. Dads set the example of how a boy should treat girl, and how their daughter’s should expect to be treated by a man. Dad’s work differently than moms. Many say that men work less and expect more from entitlement, but I challenge this. We are different – men and women – so we work differently, we feel things differently, and we see things differently. And that’s okay. No, really, it is. Don’t be uncomfortable by that. We encourage people to embrace their unique qualities, but we become uncomfortable with recognition and celebration.
To all the dads out there, thank you for being an example in your child’s life. If you are one who has allowed yourself to drift away from your family, make this a wake up call and admit your shortcomings – you might be one of the few people in your child’s life who actually takes responsibility for their actions. Make amends. Be a dad.
Father’s Day is the one day of the year that we are to be recognized for our unique role in life. Let us have this one day. It is our day. Happy Father’s Day.
Everyone has a story. Make yours one that your children will share with you.